How to help teens have a positive attitude

Teens get into stressful situations that can often cause them to develop a pessimistic attitude. Between homework, extracurricular activities, social pressures … your teen may start to feel negative. Therefore, boosting his self-esteem and encouraging him to see life in a more positive way can help your child have a better attitude towards life.


Be a good example

To work on a positive attitude in your children, the first thing you should do is curb your own negativity, even when your children are not around. Getting into the habit of looking on the bright side of life and having an optimistic outlook could rub off on your child. Focus on the positives that occur throughout the day rather than solely on the negatives.

Identify the situations

It is important that you identify the situations that cause your child to have a negative perspective. For example, find out if he’s having a hard time in class or with his best friend. Maybe something has happened that has affected him at home but that you have played down. When you can identify the source of the negativity, then you can better help your adolescent to find solutions to problems.

Analyze the situation

It is important that once the source of the negativity has been identified, you discuss it with your child to work on specific life problems. If your child is at risk of failing one or more subjects, find out why it happens and what he should do to improve his performance without neglecting his emotional health. For example, you can work on their study habits, you can communicate with their teachers to ask for help, work with a private teacher, seek psycho-pedagogical help, etc.


Congratulate your son

Compliment your child with specific compliments and honestly. He will know if you are not sincere so I advise you to only congratulate him if it really is real. For example, you can say something like: ‘I’m very proud of you for calling me to pick you up when your friends started drinking. I know that your friends are very important to you, but your safety is the priority. ‘ 

Practice positive conversation

Practicing positive conversation with your teens is very important. Help your children train their brain to be able to think positively and put negative thoughts aside. For example, if your child has a close exam and is afraid of not passing it, you can dissuade him from negative thinking. Instead of him thinking things like, ‘I’m going to fail because I’m so bad at math,’ you can help him think things like, ‘I can pass this test if I spend enough time and desire to study .

Talents and interests

It is important that you encourage your child to find and develop his talents and interests, as this will help him build his self-esteem. Therefore, it is a good idea that you maintain your child’s interests and help him discover his talents. For example, if he chooses to do theater or join a sports team (or both) you can accept his interests and help him achieve them. Avoid saying things that detract from him and give him comments that encourage him and motivate him to excel.